Friday, December 25, 2009

Why Do We Keep Losing

parts of ourselves to love?

Why do we believe we are not whole on our own, till a man loves us?

Why do we give our heart away instead of sharing our heart with another?

Why do we forget our friends & family when a man finally loves us?

Why do we think he deserves all of us?

Why do we let him take our dreams for the sake of "us"?

Why do we slowly disappear and become one with him?

Why do we give up our name when we marry?

Why do we allow a joint email account or a facebook account?

Why do we feel a committed relationship is a surrendering of our soul, our very being?

Why do we suppress our individuality?

Why do we slowly fade into couplehood and cease being whole?

On our own.

Aren't we capable of loving without slowly losing pieces of ourselves?

We've had a life before him and its great to want to share your life with him. But there will be a day when you wonder where you lost yourself to him.

Love gives naught but itself and takes naught but from itself.
Love possesses not nor would it be possessed;
For love is sufficient unto love.

You were born together, and together you shall be forevermore.
You shall be together when the white wings of death scatter your days.
Ay, you shall be together even in the silent memory of God.
But let there be spaces in your togetherness,
And let the winds of the heavens dance between you.

Love one another, but make not a bond of love:
Let it rather be a moving sea between the shores of your souls.
Fill each other's cup but drink not from one cup.
Give one another of your bread but eat not from the same loaf
Sing and dance together and be joyous, but let each one of you be alone,
Even as the strings of a lute are alone though they quiver with the same music.

Give your hearts, but not into each other's keeping.
For only the hand of Life can contain your hearts.
And stand together yet not too near together:
For the pillars of the temple stand apart,
And the oak tree and the cypress grow not in each other's shadow.

-Kahlil Gibran-

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